Judith S. Wallerstein, Ph.D., the co-writer of the book “The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts” talks one of the most important things that therapists would recommend for a happy marriage.
- Separate emotionally from the circle of relatives you grew up in, now not to the factor of estrangement—still, enough so that your identification is broken free that of your dad and mom and siblings.
- Build a bond primarily based on a shared intimacy and identity, at the same time as at the same time, set barriers to guard each partner’s autonomy.
- Establish a productive and pleasurable sexual dating and shield it from the intrusions of the place of business and family obligations.
- For couples with children, embrace the daunting roles of parenthood and absorb the effect of a baby’s front into the marriage.
- Learn to keep the work of protecting the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple.
- Confront and grasp the inevitable crises of life.
- Maintain the power of the marital bond in the face of adversity. Marriage needs to be a haven in which partners can specific their differences, anger, and conflict.
- Use humor and laughter to hold things in angle and to avoid boredom and isolation.
- Nurture and comfort every other, satisfy each partner’s needs for dependency, and offer persevering with encouragement and support.
- Keep alive the primary romantic, idealized photos of falling in love, even facing the sober realities of the changes wrought by way of time.
There are recurrent themes you may observe as you continue reading. Humor, sexual intimacy, comfort, and obstacles are a few.